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Writer's pictureKelly Shea

Comparison Game


Do you find yourself comparing yourself to others? Do you find it frustrating watching others defeat their goals while your goals seems to be defeating you? "They can run faster, more attractive and look at them killing the game"...those thoughts are completely natural. It's hard for me to tell you not to compare yourself to others because I do it...more often than I care to admit. Why? Because I am human.


We always want what we can't have, for whatever reason it is born within us to want more. I'm really focusing on my thoughts and when I start to compare myself to others instead of turning that into a negative for me, I am learning how to let those thoughts fuel me to work harder at reaching the goals that I have. Listen, Karen (poor Karen never gets a break) can kick a$$ in the game of life, but so can you! I can give myself all of the excuses in the world as to why I am not like those that I am admiring, but bottom line is, I can be exactly like them. Hell, I can even change the story so that they are admiring me!


I am not saying that you can't be perfectly happy with the way that you are right now, but I know there are going to be times that you are looking at someone and thinking "I wish that I could be more like them" and in that moment of thought I want you to remember that you are AMAZING as is, but also know that if you want more, let that thought fuel you to be more! No two people will ever be the same, but what sets those that are successful at reaching their goals apart from those that are not, is the effort they put into achieving the success that they have.


I know I have said in previous blogs and there are even multiple books and quotes on not comparing yourself to others, but I believe the comparison game, if done in a healthy manner, can lead you to everything you were born to do. If we didn't have anything to compare ourselves to, what would make us want to strive for more? Maybe it's the competitive side in me, but a world without comparison sounds a little boring. Bottom line, love you, but don't cap your limits and if you see someone else do something you wish you could do, ask yourself why you can't and then go do it!

 

Day 3 of 56


Today was what the challenge is calling "active rest day"...so that meant Mother Nature was waiting for me to get up this time. Couple things I noticed between waking up early vs not:

Early Morning Wake Up with Exercise:

  • I felt more creative, like my mind is constantly thinking (yes, more than usual).

  • I felt more productive.

  • Oddly less hungry

  • Happier

  • More energy

  • Wanted to keep going

No Early Morning Wake Up, No Exercise

  • Sluggish

  • Punchy

  • Hungry, so hungry

  • So tired

  • Did I mention tired

  • Is the day over yet

Now it's too early to fully commit to mornings with exercise, but I will be interested to see how the comparison follows through as the weeks tick on. So today was also weigh-in day and picture taking day (omg again with the pictures). I've learned to not take the scale seriously, there are so many elements that can make the number reflect in your favor or have you wanting to throw it out the window, so while I was happy with what it had to say, I know that next week what it might have to say could have me jumping on it until we are both crying.

 

Food for Thought

So food has been a constant struggle for me. The more I reflect on my eating habits, the more that I see that I am a binge eater. That is super hard for me to admit, but looking back on my patterns, that is exactly what I do. I've tried everything to lose weight, I lose some and then I start back to my old habits. I secretly wish Weight Watchers gave punch cards for how many times you sign up, every time I go back, I have the Eminem song (Without Me) playing in my head "Guess who's back, back again...". My goal during this challenge is to once and for all learn the healthy way to eat, to allow myself some slack, but also learn how to better fuel my body so that I am "eating to live, not living to eat". I am going to allow myself a candy bar or a cookie, but I am not going to eat ten in one sitting or eat them like I'm never going to get them again...EVER. I mentioned Macros in my blog yesterday and I am slowly starting to comprehend what they are...I mean I get the general basis, but knowing how much of what to eat so that my body can run the best that it can is a bit tricky. I have to log my food into the Mytransphormation app and you get a check mark if you fall within range of your calories, protein, carbs and fats...Monday I started out with 1 check mark, Tuesday no check marks and today, I got three. I can see how it can be overwhelming and frustrating, but it seriously it is making me more conscious of what is in each piece of food that I eat. Food can be rather exciting, even when you are trying to get healthy.

 

Joggin the Noggin

My podcast take away from today: Mind Pump: Raw Fitness Truth (10 Habits of Super-Healthy People):

Find people you admire and watch and learn from them.

  1. Plan Breakfast

  2. Track Water Intake

  3. Take Walk Breaks

  4. Unplug from Tech

  5. Fall in Love with Personal Growth

  6. Prioritize and Optimize Sleep

  7. Build Muscle and Lift Weights

  8. Go Outside and Get Fresh Air

  9. Stay Mobile

  10. Have a Mindfulness Practice

 

Ear Candy

Another Great Workout Song or just a great feel good song!


 

Say it Again


 

My Reflection

As I am thinking about all of my successes the last three days, I can't help be a little nervous as we start approaching the weekend as that is when the beast usually unleashes and all the hard work I put in throughout the week is thrown out the window. So instead of thinking about all of the bad things that could happen this weekend, I am starting to put in place things that will make me successful.


I am not sure anyone could fully explain or comprehend how incredibly difficult it is to break a bad habit unless they have fully been in the ring with one. Eating is an addiction, the same way that smoking, drinking and drugs are...I am not an expert on any of it, but I know how food makes me feel. I have never smoked or have done drugs a day in my life, honestly I could live the rest of my life without another drop of alcohol, but there is something about food that just hits a level of happiness in me that I can't get anywhere else.


I am trying my very best to make my life the healthiest and happiest I can make it and I know that means that I need to get the control I let food have on my life under wraps. If you can't relate to my blog or understand where it is that I am coming from, be thankful that you don't. Again, I am not at all saying there is anything wrong with me, in fact, I love me more than ever, but I know that what I have been feeding my body is not something that I deserve and that piece of cake I eat, I want to savor like I've never had it before, not eat like I'm never going to have it again.


Balance, it's a hard one to grasp. I constantly feel like I'm running from one side to the other, but as I slowly start to approach the middle, I understand that happiness is learning to lean a little left and a little right and not jumping full force to either side.



Day 3...Check!


Be Kind. Be Love. Be You.


Love to you all;


Shea













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